“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
-Psalm 27:2
You love each other, but you feel stuck.
A Proven Approach to Couples’ Counseling
Find Your Way Back to Each Other
You love each other - but lately, it may feel like you're on opposite sides.
Whether it’s the same argument that keeps resurfacing, feeling unheard, or a deeper hurt like betrayal or addiction, these patterns can leave you feeling lonely and frustrated. But they don’t have to define your relationship.
Preparing for Marriage
Premarital counseling provides engaged and seriously dating couples with the opportunity to explore their strengths, communication patterns, and areas for growth. As a facilitator for Prepare/Enrich, I guide couples through meaningful conversations about their relationship, including expectations, finances, family dynamics, and intimacy. You don't have to wait until something is wrong to invest in your relationship.
Understanding the Cycle
Most couples get caught in a cycle neither partner intentionally created. Beneath the conflict lies a deeper longing: “Do I matter to you?” “Can I trust you with my heart?” Together, we will slow down the cycle and uncover these underlying emotions and attachment needs.
A Relationship that feels like home
At the heart of every relationship is a longing to be known, understood, and deeply loved. My hope is to help you create a relationship where you can be vulnerable without fear and turn toward each other in difficult moments. You may feel far apart right now, but your story doesn’t have to end here.
Healing After Betrayal?
When trust has been broken, couples often wonder, “Can we really come back from this?” Healing is possible, but it requires more than just a decision to move forward. Both of you need space to process the hurt, understand what happened, and begin rebuilding emotional safety and trust. Couples therapy offers a structured, compassionate environment for this essential work.
Creating the Relationship You Long For
Guided by Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), we’ll work toward creating the emotional safety that allows both of you to feel heard, understood, and valued.
You’ll learn to:
Recognize the negative cycle that pulls you apart
Express vulnerable emotions and deeper needs
Listen and respond with empathy and compassion
Repair hurts and rebuild trust
Move from defensiveness and withdrawal toward connection
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
You don't have to carry it solo.
Are you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or tired from struggling with the same patterns? You may have spent years holding everything together while neglecting your own needs. Even if your life appears fine from the outside, you might long for deeper connection and peace.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Therapy offers a safe space to explore what’s beneath the surface. Together, we’ll examine the beliefs, emotions, and patterns that no longer serve you, so you can feel more grounded in your body, strengthen your relationships, and have more confidence and peace.
The goal isn’t simply to understand why you struggle. It’s to help you experience something different.
A therapy that goes deeper
I use Hakomi Mindfulness-Centered Somatic Therapy, which integrates mindfulness and body awareness into the therapeutic process. Instead of just discussing past events, we focus on what’s happening in the present - your thoughts, emotions, and body sensations. This approach helps uncover deeper beliefs and patterns formed through your life experiences, allowing you to create new ways of responding and relating.
For couples, I utilize Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), an approach designed to help couples understand the negative cycles that keep them stuck. Whether you're feeling disconnected, caught in the same arguments, or rebuilding after betrayal, EFCT fosters emotional safety, trust, and connection.
I also draw from Gestalt Therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), mindfulness, and other experiential methods. Depending on your needs, our work may include guided reflection, visualization, writing, or creative expression.
Your Faith Can Be Part of the Healing
For those who desire it, I welcome Christian faith and spirituality into our work. Healing can involve more than your mind and emotions - it can also encompass your relationship with God. My hope is to offer you a space for healing, restoration, and deeper connection - with yourself, your loved ones, and God.
